It has been basically almost 2 years since our wedding. So this information is a bit foggy and not as detailed in my earlier posts. If anyone finds anything amiss in the post, please feel free to email me, or comment below so I can make the amendments. Please visit your locale for more complete details.
Assuming you have fulfilled all the legal requirements, photocopy EVERYTHING and bring them with you just to be safe. You don’t want to be the one to line up then get bumped off because you didn’t photocopy that one document.
Since we are members of the Iglesia ni Cristo, the requirements are a bit different.
>> Pick a church
The couple will have to decide in which locale they want to be married. As you might expect, weddings at district locales have a long waiting list. Unless you really REALLY want to get married there, I suggest picking one of the locales where one or both of the couple is registered.
>> Pick a date
When decided, reserve the desired date of the wedding in the Locale and sign the registry with the Kalihims.
Then talk to the Pangulong kalihim and ask about the necessary steps/papers required. Their office will give you a checklist of everything you will need to accomplish and a form.
>> MAKE SURE to ask how many copies are needed.
I will summarize below to the best of my memory.
You have to get the following documents for both the Bride and Groom.
- Parents letter of consent.
- Patotoo from the Pastor of Locales where they the couple are registered
- Signatures from the Head Deacons where they the couple are registered
- Patotoo from the Head of the “Kalihiman ng Ilaw ng Kaligtasan”
- Patotoo from the District offices where both are registered.
This takes quite a bit of effort since you may have to go back several times to get all the signatures.
You will also have to list down your Godparents (Ninong/Ninang/Sponsors).
Non-INC godparents are limited to only 2 in total. This is important. If you wish to include non-INC godparents you will have to write a letter of explanation and add it to your stack of documents.
Once you have all the papers, take it to the Pangulong kalihim to verify everything.
You will also have to compile signatures from the important people in the locale where you are to be wed. This includes:
- All Head Deacons (Mga pangulong diakono)
- The head of the choir (Pangulong mang-aawit)
- groundskeeper/bantay kapilya(he will be the one to arrange the furniture etc.)
- Pastor of the locale
They will then compile everything for you to take to the District where you will be wed.
Go to the district office where the secretary there can help you find a Minister to facilitate your seminar and to facilitate the actual wedding ceremony. They may be the same person but, that wasn’t our case since the Minister that wed us was a TV personality as well.
You will have to meet with both ministers so that you can coordinate. If possible ask for their mobile numbers.
You will also have to attend a pre-wedding seminar to prepare you for the proper life of a Buklod or Married couple. This takes around 3 hours but is very helpful and informative especially for you couples who have little idea of what it is to be a mature wedded couple.
After the seminar the Minister will sign your wedding form.
Take the form and all the other documents back to the Office of the head of the District.
You will then have to take the papers to the Office of the head of the District to have everything verified. In our case this was in Metro Manila Central.
Once the District office clears you, then all is well. You can continue preparations for your wedding.
The day before the wedding you will meet with your wedding minister and all the important people in your wedding. These are:
- Sponsors (Ninongs and Ninangs)
- Best Man
- Maid of Honor
- Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
Make sure to call the minister in advance. We forgot to notify him ahead, but he rushed to make it.
You will practice everything including walking, places, and when to sign the documents. Don’t worry if you fail to memorize the steps as the Minister will still be guiding you on the actual day.
- Bring a small handfan if your local is not air-conditioned.
- Order food for the choir. They are doing this for free so give some love. The typical number of singers are around 30 for small locales.
You will go through the actual steps that you covered during rehearsal but this time, you will sign the actual papers.
Once the papers are signed, the Minister and the Pangulong Kalihim will take care of taking everything to the NSO/City Hall etc.
Follow up with the Pangulong Kalihim so you’ll know when you can order your NSO certified marriage certificate.
Previous blog: Wedding – Important Things (Part 2)
INC Wedding Series:
- Wedding – INC Wedding intro
- Wedding – Important Things (Part 1)
- Wedding – Legal Requirements (Part 2)
- Wedding – Church Requirements (Part 3) (this post)
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